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I – My mini-autobiography


1985 to 1989 – Early childhood

3rd July 1985, a new member was added into the Chadha family. We were a joint family back then. I wasn’t the first grandson born in the family, but as far I know, I was the most pampered. 2 months into this world and I developed a problem called Hydrocephalus. As soon as it was confirmed that something was wrong, we quickly drove down from Chandigarh to Delhi. Delhi at that time was simmering thanks to the anti-Sikh riots. Dad tells me that he stood at the gates of AIIMS holding me in his arms and the guard wouldn’t allow him inside accusing him of being a terrorist. After he pleaded and begged him, we were allowed in, but only till the kitchen and that’s where my check up was done. Anyways, the problem was soon diagnosed and I was rushed to the operation theatre. After the operation, the doctor came and told my dad that there are high chances that I may be a mentally retard and the best he could hope for is that I have an IQ of 80. After this dad went and visited ever single gurudwara in Punjab and asked god for just one thing, “Just make sure my son gets to study.” Contrary to all expectations, I turned out to be quite a bright little kid. At the age of three, I could actually talk to people about every tennis player of those times. At an age when kids couldn’t pronounce Czechoslovakia, I could tell people what the capital of that country was. My dad tells me this story every time I curse life or god. He just says, “If it wasn’t for that god, you wouldn’t have been what you are today. Out of all the people on this planet, you can’t afford be a non-believer. ” If it wasn’t for this incident, I would have never believed in the concept of god at all. I still don’t believe in the concept of multiple religions, but I do believe that there is a divine power up there who is running the whole show on this planet. Anyways, I had a couple of surgeries in Delhi in the next couple of years and then five more in Hyderabad, where we shifted after dad got a job in Asian Paints.

1989 to 1996 – growing up years phase 1

We moved to Hyderabad in early 1989. After staying in a rented house for two months, we moved into a flat given to us by the company. The society in which we moved into, had people from all over the country. I was a very touchy kid who was always over protected by my parents. To top it all, I was a complete tube light (although, some would say I still am). This proved to be a very dangerous combination. This made me very vulnerable and the other kids would find it very easy to manipulate me. I always found it difficult to learn when others taught me something, but would end up learning that very same thing all by myself in no time. My dad toiled unsuccessfully for over a month to teach me how to ride a bicycle and how to skate, but finally lost all hope one day. From the middle of nowhere, I started riding the bicycle and started skating all by myself. The problem wasn’t that I had a problem with his teaching; it was just that I couldn’t follow a standard step by step procedure of learning something. Even today, I find it difficult to follow a standard procedure in doing something. If I find a better way of doing something, I’ll go for it regardless of what people have to say. I am not sure if that’s a good thing or not, but it’s just the way I am.

1996-2003 – growing up years phase 2

I shifted from an all boys school to a co-education school. I had hardly any interaction with girls before this, except for my childhood friend, who I always treated like another guy. Now, here I was, all of a sudden found myself surrounded by aliens. My sister had a heart problem and my parents had to start concentrating on her and with the result I had to take complete control of my life. This proved a little too much for me and everything started falling apart. I soon started to lag behind in my academics, fellow students and teachers started to look down on me and as a result I had no friends. Things went from bad to worse over the next two years. My teachers used to humiliate me and beat me up every single day. I soon went into a state of depression and developed an inferiority complex. I lost all the confidence that I had and began to hope everyday that, that day was my last. Then one day, somewhere in the year 2000, when things had become way too much for me to handle, I went back home and burst out crying in front of my mother and I told her everything that was actually going on with me. Since then mom and dad helped me get out of my mess slowly and steadily. By the time I had passed my 10 th grade, the kid who had stopped seeing more than 50% on his mark-sheet, passed out in first division and by the time I passed out of my twelfth I could actually boast of a percentage in the eighties. It took a few more years to come out of my inferiority complex and depression. Those years weren’t easy, but today, as I look back, those days are an asset. Whenever am low or the chips are down, I just close my eyes for a few minutes and recollect those memories and say to myself, “if I could get through those days, I can get through anything.” People who have known about this feel sorry for me, but I kind of feel proud that all that happened. You may find it strange, but I kind of feel gifted.

2004-2007 – College life

My dad always wanted me to be an engineer but left the decision on me. However, one of my dad’s friends advised him not to make me take up engineering because he felt I wouldn’t be able to cope with it. Instead, he felt I should be doing a course like arts. My dad just replied saying “it’s completely up to him. I am not going to force him into anything.” But that very day I sub-consciously decided that I am going to be an engineer and show this guy that I CAN. So here I was, in March 2004, admitted into one of the best Engineering Collge in Hyderabad. My inferiority complex hadn’t completely gone away from me. The next three years passed by pretty fine. Not too many friends but I was leading a decent life. The turning point for me came in my final year, when I got through Accenture. It was no great interview that required me to know rocket science, but, it was the first time I had achieved something all by myself. Things changed all of a sudden, I was full of confidence and could now start looking at people eye to eye. Even my class mates were shocked on seeing the new me. I was a changed person. I changed from a guy who couldn’t speak to anybody to a guy who proposed a girl in front of a hundred people knowing she wouldn’t accept it because she like someone else. I changed from a guy who hoped he was dead one day to a guy who wanted to live every moment of his life as if he had never lived before. By the time I left college, I had a set of friends who were as close to me as family and I was a person, who completely believed in himself. One thing I learnt from all this, it was never the way others looked at me that changed, it was the way I looked at the world that made all the difference.

2007 to present – Life in the corporate world.

Although I had done my electrical engineering, I was always fond of software. I could sit for hours and code something. Joining Accenture was a dream come true. I entered this organization with a picture in my head, where all I would be doing is coding software, something I loved doing. However, I soon realized corporate world had many more dynamics attached to it. The past three years have gone from excitement of finally getting to earn your own money to frustration on seeing no future in what I was doing to realization that however pathetic things are, in the end of the day you have to face them. The question I had to ask myself again was, “are things that bad or is it the way I am looking at them?” The answer didn’t really surprise me. The minute I changed my perception about things, things at work changed automatically.

So that’s how my life has been for the past twenty five years. I won’t say it’s been a great life, neither will I say it’s been a bad life. It’s just been a journey of crests and troughs and with each crest and each trough, I have grown as a person.

Part 2…

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Tavish is the administrator and founder of Sensible Bakwas. He is a software engineer by profession and a writer by passion. In case you want to get in touch with him, he is an email away at tavish.chadha@gmail.com. Hope you enjoy your time here. Do leave your feedback in the comment section here.

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63 Responses to "I – My mini-autobiography"

  1. Lazy Pineapple says:

    I love your post Tavish. It is straight from the heart and so truthfully refreshing :)
    All the best for the contest…

  2. Zeenat{Positive Provocations} says:

    Dearest Tavish,
    Your life is beautiful and perfect just as it is. You are what you are today, cause of these life experiences. You have grown into a mature, understanding and loving individual. And thats what matters ultimately. That you are growing…growing with each day and all for the better.
    And the best part is…this is ONLY your life. Only yours. think about it..noone else will ever live this life ever….you are unique and special..and so is your life.
    Lots of love,
    Z~

  3. Tripat "Prerna" says:

    i hv aways loved ur way of expressing of thoughts…its always innovative :)

  4. Phoenixritu says:

    You know what makes you so readable? It is your sincerity. You come through as very genuine. Keep it up

  5. Parth J Dave says:

    Mast mast…very honest and introspective review of your life! Keep up the brilliance, Tavish bhai!

  6. Abha Midha says:

    Am totally amazed…..such a balanced view of your roller coaster life. What i admire the most is your acceptance of things gone bad and your amazing resilience to fight back and overcome all odds. Loved your post :)

  7. Shilpa Garg says:

    It is so nice to note that despite all the initial lows, you have conquered all and are successful and happy. I know, it's truly commendable and it's something to be proud of!!
    Wishing you the very best in everything you do and this contest too!
    Cheers :)

  8. BK Chowla, says:

    You are the real hero.Despite problems from almost at your birth time,you did manage to stand up to yourself.
    My best wishes.
    But, you must not forget the role played by your parents in your success.
    God is watching all of us—He will never do injustice.

  9. xt8icxntric says:

    You don't cease to amaze me! Such maturity at such a young age. Kudos buddy! You truly rock! You are already a celebrity to me.

  10. Sahil Sharma says:

    you are bond Tavish. Such brilliant narration…

  11. Avada Kedavra says:

    Very nice post Tavish. You are simply too good at writing on such sensitive topics. It just feels so great to know that you conquered all those difficulties and are now successful :) You are simply great!! :) Good luck for your future too!! :)

  12. evanescentthoughts says:

    I dont see my comment :D Please check the spam comments once :)

  13. tikulicious says:

    good post Tavish. Wishing you all the best. Like the way you lay bare your soul

  14. nivedithasperceptions says:

    Wow, so much about you! wonderful! :) Loved the post! :)

  15. Dagny Taggart says:

    You are a true winner…please be that way always or as a Jedi would "May the force be with you".

    on one end life is a bundle of trials and tribulations and on the other of immense joy and that is what make heroes of men!!!

    and this is just a quarter of a life, look at what you have achieved, imagine all that is yet to be achieved, err…autograph please, God Bless!!!

    …very well written, simple and straight from the heart *bows down* with respect.

  16. Tavish Chadha(sensible-bakwas.com) says:

    LP
    Thanks LP… all the best to you too!

    Zeenat
    Yes Zeenat, this life is mine and only mine… u r right, no one can and ever will live this life… thats y i feel gifted :)
    Thanks for making me feel so special… :)

    Prerna
    I am just straight forward… the only way I know of expressing my thoughts. I am glad u liked it :)

  17. Tavish Chadha(sensible-bakwas.com) says:

    Ritu
    Thank you so much! That was a really sweet comment..thanks!

    Parth
    Thanks buddy!

    Abha
    Well, till u dont accept that things have gone bad, you cant really correct them. :)
    Thanks allot for that lovely comment. :)

    Shilpa
    Thank you so much Shilpa. All the best to you too! :)

  18. Tavish Chadha(sensible-bakwas.com) says:

    BK Chowla
    Well, if it wasnt for my parents, i would have never been able to be what i am today, thats a fact. Thank you so much for those comments sir. :)

    Abhi
    Thank you so much man! Celebrity banne ke liye time hai yaar… :P

    Sahil
    Thanks allot buddy! :)

    Avada
    Thank you so much buddy… that was really flattering!

  19. Tavish Chadha(sensible-bakwas.com) says:

    Tikuli
    Thanks buddy. Good luck to you too!

    Nivedita
    Thanks buddy. Am glad u liked it! :)

    Arpita
    Thank you so much! That was really flattering…

  20. Rumya says:

    Well presented post.
    One can sense the truthfulness in every word and it was so simple, straight forward and well thought.
    Just goes to show the stuff you are made up of!!
    Can sense the Grit and Determination. No complexes at all!!
    All the Best Tavish!! :)

  21. stargazerpuj says:

    I loved this post coz you've been so open. The learning is that we can all do anything we want – need to have the conviction and of course support from loved ones…

  22. hitesh rawat says:

    an inspiring story…..i love reading personal posts….and know people around me……in the blogosphere…..it was good to read about you and know you better……..

  23. writerzblock says:

    I second LP, Tavish. A very honest and straight forward post. And like you said, all such tribulations that make Life so difficult actually help us GROW immensely as a person!! God bless you :-)

  24. Tavish Chadha(sensible-bakwas.com) says:

    Rumya
    Thanks allot for those kind words buddy… all the best to u too! :)

    Pujitha
    Thanks Pujitha… glad u liked it :)

    Hitesh
    Thanks buddy…

    writerzblock
    Thank u so much for those kind words buddy. :)

  25. Someone Is Special says:

    Tavish, awesome post, well written, straight from the heart and I am impressed.

    Few Miles

    Yours Frendly,
    Saravana Kumar M

  26. ganivpanjrath says:

    dear Tavish yours is a very sincere attempt.i wish all the best in what ever you do.love you always gonu didi.

  27. Mehak says:

    you know Tavish, one day when you're a famous writer or something, you can actually use this post and expand it into a full length autobiography. it's so interesting, so well-written, so honest and frank. and i could relate to several parts of it too.
    keep up the great work. :)

  28. Tavish Chadha(sensible-bakwas.com) says:

    Saravana
    Thank u so much buddy…

    Gonu did
    Thank u so much didi… love u too :)

    Mehak
    famous witter? wow… that was flattering… hopefully someday yes… will def write my autobiography… thanks for the kind words Mehak…

  29. pushpee says:

    so happy that I read ur inspiring story, must give ur parents credit for letting u grow and help u overcome ur shyness and allowing u to choose ur goal :))
    Pushpee

  30. Tavish Chadha(sensible-bakwas.com) says:

    Pushpee
    My parents have been my backbone all my life… in fact they have played a huge role in making me what I am today… thanks u so much for ur kind words Pushpee! :)

  31. tmac2271 says:

    You know how much i love the personal blogs. very inspiring. Yeah i went through the inferior complex issues as well, and it appears every now and then. You'll be fine in life. =)

  32. Deeps says:

    That was so inspiring, Tavish!

    "One thing I learnt from all this, it was never the way others looked at me that changed, it was the way I looked at the world that made all the difference." Very well said.

    May God bless you always :)

    Good luck fr the contest!

  33. Vibhuti B says:

    Awwww Tavish,
    Yours is one superbly inspiring story!
    I am speechless! And truly your life is one indisputable example that God is truly great!
    If you hadn't shared the delicate details of your struggle as a child we would never have known. I can only say that all your pain has been our gain. We have an awesome, brainy multi-talented, extremely sharp Blogger Dost!
    Thanku God..:D
    Hugs Tavish

  34. Vipul Grover says:

    Evryone hs poured their hearts out here.. so i'll not be repeating tht though i'l do add tht wat i feel aftr reading this is an echo of wat, all of thm hav felt :)
    I'll just say, buddy u r 25 now.. out of brahmacharya into grahast ashram.. marry and add anothr chapter 2 this story of ur life :p

  35. Tavish Chadha(sensible-bakwas.com) says:

    tmac2271
    Well, am more than fine now buddy hehe… good to know that u conquered ur complexes… i know they keep coming back now and then with me too…but ive learnt how to deal with them… i am sure u have too… good luck!

    Deeps
    Thanks buddy.. all the best to u too! :)

    Vibhti
    aww thank u so much for those kind words dost… means allot :)

  36. Tavish Chadha(sensible-bakwas.com) says:

    Vipul
    lol… shadi ko bohot time hai boss… have loads to do in life before i settle down… :P
    anyways thanks for the lovely comments…

  37. Bedlam says:

    Very well delivered, Tavish.. May God bless you with all the courage to face the ups n downs (Praying there be none) in the future too, the way you have been facing your life from childhood.

    ATB for the contest.. :)

  38. Tavish Chadha says:

    Bedlam
    Thanks allot for those kind words…all the best to u too!

  39. Ayswarya says:

    Dear Tavish,

    You have such a beautiful life. Blessed to find such lovely parents. I am so proud to be one of your closest friends.

    God Bless you.

    1. Hey thanks allot buddy… i am also glad to have in my list of very close friends. :)

      Cheers!

  40. anjugandhi says:

    awesome joureny’
    enjoyed a lot
    you have a with with words
    you should have been a writer instead of an engineer.

    1. I know Anju, i feel the same way all the time. Had I taken up literature instead of engineering things would have been so different… but everything happens for a reason… thats what i believe…

      Thanks u so much for ur lovely comments…

      Cheers!

  41. Well written…ups n down r in life!! U write really very well. I had no idea that u had a website…nice one bro, its quite interesting!! Liked the layout of your website!! Keep the good work going!!

    1. Hey thanks Nazish… am glad u liked the stuff here!

  42. disney plush says:

    Hi. I wanted to drop you a quick note to express my thanks. I¡¯ve been following your blog for a month or so and have picked up a ton of good information as well as enjoyed the way you¡¯ve structured your site.

    1. Tavish Chadha says:

      Thank u so much!

  43. Anney says:

    Hey…You sound just like me…a fighter…When the goig gets Tough, The Tough get Going…I love the nae Sensible Bakwas…:)

    1. Tavish Chadha says:

      Hey glad ti know that Anney. Thank u so much for ur kid words and continue being the fighter u have been till now. :)

  44. satya says:

    Hey.. Life is Beautiful…

    Btw, Lots of similar things.. .I also did engineering in electricals but still interested in coding.. Joined accenture.. working in same location.. ufff.. co-incidence.

    1. Tavish Chadha says:

      hehehe…. yeah life is beautiful… drop me a mail sometime… we can get in touch :)

  45. Anuradha says:

    It was nice reading it all..It’s always great to know about someone’s life as we get to learn from it…. Wish you luck :)

    1. Tavish Chadha says:

      Thanks Anu! I am glad ur liked reading it :)

  46. Saurabh says:

    Hey Tavish,
    fantastic buddy…i didn’t knew that u write so well…the flow of ur writing is so good, it doesn’t allows the reader to go away without complete reading..
    best of luck buddy…and ya..ur biography is fully sensible and no bakwass.. :)

    1. Tavish Chadha says:

      Hey thanks Saurabh! I am glad u liked it buddy… :)

  47. Akhilesh says:

    I was spell-bound while reading it. Feeling pity about poor uncle who said that you can’t be an engineer… lol

    1. Tavish Chadha says:

      ha ha i thank that uncle though… ussi ki toh wajah se i am what I am… thanks for your comments Akhilesh and welcome to Sensible Bakwas :)

  48. Chandu Venu says:

    Tavish…as usual, u r top notch…super edition…

    1. Tavish Chadha says:

      Thanks buddy! :)

  49. biswajit says:

    Hey Tavish a mesmerizing piece of beauty, m not talking about the way you have made it to fall on paper, but the way u have made it so beautiful till now. Must say astounding, m moved literally .

    1. Tavish Chadha says:

      Hey thanks allot buddy for those lovely words :)

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  51. Ravi Naik Ramavath says:

    Nice one dude! You are awsome man!
    There is lot to learn from you.

    1. Tavish Chadha says:

      Thanks a ton Ravi… glad u liked it :)

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